When do I send my save-the-dates and what should I include on them?
Save-the-dates are particulary important for destination weddings or if you have many out-of-town guests. You should typically send out your save-the-dates six to nine months before your wedding, but for destination weddings, or if you have a lot of guests who are coming from out of town, you want to send your save-the-dates closer to 12 months in advance. “If the people you’re inviting will need to request time off for work, you want to give them ample time to do that
Does sending the save-the-date mean they are invited to the wedding
There are many different ideas on this .floating around out there. We at The French Bee think that you should only send the save-the-dates to people who are actually invited to the wedding. We do not agree with some people in the industry that believe A save the date card doesn't necessarily mean that you're invited to the wedding - it simply means that you're on the proposed guest list. Truly, what is the point in that?
What information should be included on Save-the-date
Save-the-dates do not have to as formal as the actual invitation. So you might want to include your names, your wedding web-site address, your wedding hashtag, location of event and date. You may want to mention that a formal invitation is to follow.
How do we let people know who is invited
Be sure to put everyone who is invited on the address. If you want to invite your Uncle and Aunt, but not their five year old. Make sure you put just both their names and not the five year old. This is where, if you would like someone to bring a guest, you may address their save-the-date with their name and guest. Be careful here, if that person is in a serious relationship and the couple has been together for some time, then both names should appear on the address.
Do the Save-the-dates have to match the invitations
Not necessarily, as we said earlier that save-the-dates do not need to be as formal as the invitations. Of course if you would like them to match, there is nothing saying you can not. A lot of people use this to show off their engagement photos, or just something special to the two of you. Be careful and don’t over think it.
What not to put on the-save-dates
It is not polite to put your bridal registry, or dress code on your Save-the-dates. Save that stuff for your wedding website. There is no need for a RSVP, that will come with the wedding invitation. You do not need to put the time or exact venue because sometime those things are TBD and will be on the actual invitation as well.